Unconditional Love! Children can share their troubles with Mom. After all, if you can’t trust Mom, who can you trust.
Ryan Lochte, the Olympic swimmer who went on a “binge drunk” at the Rio Olympics, became a raucous bully at a gas station. He kicked in bathroom doors, broke mirrors and generally trashed the public rest room. The incident went unreported until the next day. The police were not called. The International Olympic Committee was not told.
Ryan, being the good little dude, shared the incident with his Mom. I think it has something to do with “releasing guilt feelings”. Mom was comforting as always and pledged her support. Wouldn’t you know that Mom, as she was waiting for a bus in front of the hotel, shared Ryan’s story with an innocent looking man from Fox News. The first version of the story told to Mom was embellished with Ryan having been robbed at gun point. Whoops. Mom, you couldn’t! You shared Ryan’s confidential conversation. Mom broke the universal law “you can trust me”.
Ryan lied. As the story of what happened grew, Ryan’s nose grew.
Mom was embarrassed for betraying the shared secret (even though it was wrong).
Here is my question! Why would you tell your Mom and Dad anything? If I told my Mom about doing something bad, she would eventually tell my Dad and then I would get my a– kicked. Nothing good happens from telling Mom and Dad about bad things. Let them find out for themselves. Let Mom and Dad live the illusion they are raising the “perfect” child. Just saying.
Thank goodness all of you Grasshoppers told your Mom and I everything!
Love,
Dad